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Baby Juliet

I would be remiss in my role of father if I didn’t mention here that we JUST HAD ANOTHER BABY GIRL! WOO HOO!

Juliet, born November 28th, 2009, at 9:27am. She weighed in at 7lbs 2oz. (yes, I’m finally posting this 3 weeks later…it’s been a little busy…read on)

We are nesting now, hard core. Everything is all fuzzy and warm. Day melts into night, then back into day again. When did someone drape a wet, heavy rug on my head? Because that’s what it feels like to me. I am exhausted all of the time. I go to bed tired. I wake up tired. I feel like I’m back in a college pulling all-nighters, only I’m older now and not as spry on the rebound. I have an odd inkling that I’m in a sleep deprivation study, permanently. Is this the next stage in parenthood?

I’m more forgetful now. I keep paying bills twice. It’s even crazier now because of Christmas. I’ve been running around trying to be as efficient as before and deluding myself that I can do it. I almost can. But I feel things slipping away. I’m losing my grip.

The difference this time is that we already have a daughter, who’s now 4. She needs to be fed still, and clothed, and paid attention to. I’m trying to involve her in Baby Juliet’s life, but it’s hard. Their world’s are so far away from each other.

And then Maddie and I still have to go out into the world, the real world, which seems so fast and loud and dirty and cold. How can anyone survive out there?

We hurry home to our nest. We are lucky.

This will be a Christmas to remember. Or not. What day is it again?

Through The Looking Glass: Part III

alice_through_the_looking_glassI would jump in front of a speeding car to save my daughter’s life. I say this with no hesitation and with a really powerful conviction which surprises, and, frankly, scares the hell out of me. Where does this feeling come from? I experienced it from day one with Maddie, when I hardly knew her. To think, I would sacrifice my own life for that of a tiny little  stranger.

I knew when our daughter was born that I would be taking care of her a lot. I prepared as much as I could. I read all the books I could find, talked to other parents. I knew this would be a huge responsibility. This small creature would be completely dependent on me, for food, for shelter, for warmth, for moving about. Her life was, literally, in my hands.

What I didn’t consider, and what I slowly came to realize, was that MY LIFE was in HER hands as well. This was a two way street. While I was busy nurturing this baby and helping her develop into a little girl, she was doing the same for me, helping me evolve into the father I am today.  She has taught me patience, empathy, and honesty. My intentions have become much clearer, my resolve much stronger, my energy more focused. She keeps me grounded and present. She has helped define me as a person and shown me what I care for most deeply in life.

We are connected on so many different levels and we affect each others behavior. My view of the world has changed.

This is what has surprised and delighted me the most about becoming a parent.

And to think, she’s accomplished all this and she’s only 4…

For Juliet

We are going to have another baby girl, Juliet. She is due December 1st, 2009.

This is for her:

A gentle quiet descends upon the house

the still air stirs softly

and all the remote sounds of the city seem magically

compressed and muted

as if this

was the center

of the universe.

I am in the belly of the beast

the eye of the hurricane

the navel of the world

where all existence turns

to listen

to the faint yet steady heartbeat

of hope.

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